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Minion Monday – Why, it’s okay to not have all the answers.

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Minion Monday – Why, it’s okay to not have all the answers.

Why is learning a bad thing?
I mean it, it seems so few people don’t want to learn anymore.
I have a friend who often says “Oh, no, not another learning experience.”
I see, kids not wanting to go to school, bored in class, often afraid they will appear something less than an all knowing oracle.
Even adults, afraid to admit to their kids, friend or even boss, that they simply don’t know the answer.

It is very frustrating.

When I worked I was never afraid to tell my boss I didn’t know an answer, however I always followed it with “But, I will find out.”
While teaching my boys, if I don’t know an answer, we look it up, together.

Learning needs to be a joy not a task.
Even if it can be a challenging some days, it is always worth the effort.

Still, I try and learn something new each day.
It doesn’t matter if I learn what flour works well with a certain milk or doesn’t work, or I learn a new way to get my kids to teach my kids.

I love to learn!

This is why I follow a ton of pages.
I pay attention to all the questions people ask, and read the answers.
I even answer when I can.
I talk to other people. I read books and watch more science channel and history channel than I probably should.

I strive to teach my kids that love too.

Luckily with Google and all these wonderful people who share so much, I am able continue to learn each day!

At this point you are have either gone on to another page or you are sticking it out to see where I am going with this.
If you stuck it out this far I give you a gold star ;).

You might know already, my son was diagnosed with autism at age 4 (almost 5). He has a regressive form of autism that, with much work, he now regresses less (holy cow that is a lot of s’s).

For years and years we fought to retain words, he would learn something then it would just disappear. I didn’t know why that was, after asking and searching and learning we were finally able to figure out why and how to help him.

If I had not kept asking he might have never found his voice!

Can you imagine  going through even one day and not being able to ask as single question?

Try it for a day, just one.

He couldn’t, for YEARS.

(Try  and remember that next time you see a nonverbal or minimally verbal kid have a meltdown or a frustration tantrum)

His ability to ask anything more than basic questions until the last few months was non-existent.
Even though this was the very first thing we worked to teach him.

Slowly, he has learned to ask for things he wants, to ask to go places and do things. It took YEARS.

While I am grateful I have all these resources I am a little sad too.

I can ask all the questions in the world.
I can look up answers and chat with my friends.
Heck I can even text my kids across the house and tell them to come do their chores.

Zach can’t.
YET.
He has gone from barely asking for a drink (drag me to the cabinet point to the cups); to being able to ask for the video games he wants to play!
Or to go to game stop.

He can ask for help when his tummy hurts or even ask for a hug.

I got him a skype account (hidden) and every now and them I send him a link to a video or page I think he will like. While he still won’t click them, he now lets me (or one of his brothers) click them for him.
We take tiny steps.
I know that one day he will text me and send me a funny video or as a question.

My most important teachers have always been my kids. Each of them have taught me to never ever give up and that what happened yesterday doesn’t change what can happen tomorrow.

Even if it is hard some days I know that he is capable of anything he truly wants to do.

So one day he will text me and send me a funny video or ask a question. And, after I pick my jaw up off the floor, I will answer, then hug and praise him.

So keep asking those questions, keep learning. Don’t be afraid of not knowing, because you can always find out if you are willing to try.

Minion Monday - Why, it's okay to not have all the answers. Musings of an autism mom.

Minion Monday – Why, it’s okay to not have all the answers. Musings of an autism mom.

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