As much as I love Zach, he doesn’t do holidays. He doesn’t really get special events, days that are celebrated for any reason really.
I love holidays, I celebrate the heck out of them. Or did until Zach showed an aversion to them.
At some point the joy I experienced was way out done by the anxiety Zach had. For a while I let his autism win. However in that I also lost the joy of holidays.
So did my other kids.
I wanted that back, I wanted them to wake up and bound downstairs and get excited for each holiday. I want that for all of them even Zach.
Autism stole that not just from him, but from all of us.
My 1st thought was to not include Zach, but really.. no.. so not happening.
Then I decided to tone down our celebrations, we still did big celebrations but only picked the major holidays.
Frankly that kinda sucked after a couple of years and he would still be so completely stressed out he was pretty much unmanageable.
So again we toned down the celebrations, that was okay but again we were still missing something each holiday.
Finally we decided on something a little more in between. We would celebrate the little holidays too (like May the 4th*) with little things. However when the big holidays come around, we do something more exciting, more interesting, and we not only include Zach he helps, he decorates the tree at Christmas, he sets the table at Thanksgiving. Anyway we can think to get him into it we do.
Only in this have we had the balance and the success we want!
On May the 4th we will have light saber lessons, we will make cookies, because the dark side has cookies; maybe some green punch, because yoda duh.
Most of all I will use the day to try again to watch a movie or maybe a few movies with me. The question is, numerical order or chronological order. Hmm..
Happy Monday! May the 4th be with you!