You might see Puzzle pieces or Blue on a page, maybe even my page.
You might hear moms and dads begging for the children they dreamed of. I mourn that loss some days too.
You might even hear them ask for a cure. My version of a cure is to ask for people in my son’s life to understand and embrace his differences, to look further than the lines and the lack of words. To see who he is, to see his love, to see the fact that he can’t stand to see someone sad (it physically hurts him), to see his passion, to see him and his ability. Yes, some days even I wish for my child to have an easier more “normal” life.
You should know that these things don’t mean they love their autistic any less. I know I love my sons equally, most days.
Maybe they have not come to a place of peace yet, maybe they never will, but bringing them anger and hate won’t fix this.
Show them peace, show them love and help them understand that no matter how hard autism can be, it can be awesome too. Instead of arguing you’re right vs they’re right, maybe you could counter their sorrow with your joy.
This is my page, where I share the ups and downs of our life, I choose to bring laughter and happiness to the world. I have lived in the dark, in a world filled with hate and anger. I don’t want that for my kids. Any of them. Autistic or not.
So, I am asking each of you who protest the use of a symbol to talk about autism.
What is important here? The symbol or the reason behind it.
On a weekly basis, I tell my kids, “Choose your battles”.
I am not your mom, in fact, I probably will never cross your life again. However, I am going to ask the same of you as I ask of my children. Before you attack that mom who gets a puzzle piece tattoo, ask them why they got it, listen to their story, and hear the love and devotion in their voice. Think about the words you say if this person is a loving devoted parent who would move the world for their child, why attack that?
Yes, the symbols can have a different meaning, any symbol can. However, take the time to talk to people, treat them like you want to be treated, pay attention to the details, to their reason, and then decide if this is a battle you should choose.
This is Autism Awareness month. Many people will “Light it up Blue” for the ones they love, they will take a few minutes of their day to talk about autism and how it has impacted their life. Maybe some of them will even support Autism Speaks, but maybe the reason isn’t what you think.
Sometimes they don’t know all the facts, and sometimes they don’t want to. However, attacking them isn’t going to fix anything. It will just make it harder to get them to see the truth. If you truly want to change the way they think, help them find the good in autism, show them the joy that having an autistic in their life can bring. Share the good, show them hope, even teach them to find the joy too. Help them understand who might be better to support, and show them better ways. Attacking them helps no one.
Instead of telling people not to support AS, maybe show them who actually does help. Tell them the things that make a difference in your life, instead of attacking, or picking a battle with them.
When I tell my kids to “Choose your Battles” I don’t mean to pick the fights you can win, I mean, pick the battle that makes a difference. Instead of trying to frighten people into change, show them the right way, support them like you are asking them to support acceptance. The world is a better place when filled with love and acceptance. For all of us. So, color the world, light it up blue, plaster the world in puzzle pieces, or just share a picture and a story of the autistic in your life. Acceptance and Awareness go hand in hand, understand is the key to both.
Please try to be understanding that we are all doing our very best.