Minion Monday – A long long time ago in a galaxy far far away.
Just kidding.. it was in the same house.. and not that long ago!
However, it feels like a different lifetime.
A couple of years ago, if you had told me Zach would speak in sentences or even have a verbal argument with his brother I would probably have said.. Maybe.. in 10 years.. If I am lucky.
This month he has started to talk more, string words together and now those strings have become sentences.
I have to admit, I never really believed it would happen.
After so many years with little to no words. So, I was happy to have a couple of words here and there. Yes I wanted more, but I was still happy to be able to communicate at all.
Then one day.. He said 3 words.. I love you.
Each night when I put him to bed I say the same thing. “Goodnight, sleep tight, don’t let the bed bugs tickle or bite. I love you.”
One night he said “I love you”
Eventually that expanded it to “I love you, Mom.”
Some nights he changes it up to “I love you too”
The first time I admit that I as pretty sure he was just repeating what I said. Even though his form of echolalia* is generally sounds or music rather than words. (Let’s just say I could tell which Tom and Jerry episode he was fixated on this week by the sounds he made.)
When “I got the I love you, Mom.” back.. I knew it was something else.
So I started pushing him more for more words.
I know, this is nothing new, I have done this on and off over the years. It never actually led anywhere.
Now that I take the time to sit and write about it. To put my thoughts to paper so to speak I am not so sure of that.
Maybe it was doing something all along. Maybe he just needs a bit more time for him to translate it in his head or maybe just to get to the point where he can show it to the world.
I wonder if it is him figuring out how to show me he has been paying attention.
I see him learning many other things quickly. It is mostly the communication that comes in bursts. I can’t help but think whats going on in his head, I will sit sometimes and watch him. Just watch, I will see him make a connection, see a thought click. When it comes to communication it rarely happens.
Someday. I will find what makes communication click for him too.
Until then it is amazing to see something we worked on over the years finally emerge.
It is simply amazing.
Oh, as for the argument, his brother stole his cheese while he was making his lunch (yes he makes his own lunch). He saw him and got upset, he went over to him, grabbed the cheese container back and said “No Robby, no cheese for you.” and then “No take cheese”.
A few minutes later while he was waiting for the cheese to melt in the microwave, he looks over at Robby who was still in the room and starts mumbling. It was something like “Robby no take cheese, not his cheese, bad Robby.” It was all I could do to keep from giggling. That was another 1st. Something has clicked, I can’t wait to see where it leads.
I hope something clicks for you this week.
Happy Minion Monday!
*Echolalia Is different for different kids, Zach repeats the same noises, songs or sounds patterns over and over, most kids do more of a scripting, repeating the same word phrases or quotes from movies over and over. Some say it is a form of comfort, I think for Zach it is, I also think it is the way he makes order in the world full of chaos.