I Speak For Compassion #1000Speak
There is this thing.. it is a rather awesome thing. This wonderful woman named Yvonne Spence. While one blogger might not make a difference, 1000 make a difference. She asked us all to write what compassion means to you. You can visit her site at 1000 Speak.
Here is my post.
What is compassion? I suppose like every other word it means something different to you than it does to me.
To me Compassion is to care for others, not just people who are having a hard time, or who are in a bad place in life. Everyone is having a hard time, everyone has struggles and challenges you may never see.
Just because you can’t see them doesn’t mean they don’t exist.
I have celiac, I don’t look much different than anyone else. However if I ingest even a tiny bit of gluten I get sick, really sick. Have you ever had food poisoning? Well it is a lot like that, I have cramps, nausea, vomiting, fever, I will ache for days and feel sleep deprived for a week or more. All from a crumb left on my plate.
Compassion is not poisoning me.
Compassion is holding the door, for the little old lady as much as the person who doesn’t seem to realize you are there. That person might have had a very hard day and just be caught up in thought or maybe even have Aspergers or Autism and have trouble looking at you to thank you or unable to utter the words.
Compassion is giving a stranger a passing smile and always smiling back. As someone who suffers from depression one story from long ago hit me hard to this day I still remember it every single day. It was the story of a boy who succeeded in committing suicide, as he laid there dying his sister walked in, she was too late to save him but not too late to hear his last words. “If someone had just smiled back I would have tried a little longer.” So smile, you never know who’s life you are saving if even for one more day.
Compassion is smiling at someone who looks stressed. Even a little smile can remind them there is good in the world when it is hard to find.
Compassion can be as simple as sharing your tissues when someone sneezes, giving an extra dollar when you pay your bills. Even these little acts mean something to someone, doesn’t every deserve a little kindness?
Compassion is paying for the next person in line or even just leaving a little more of a tip when you eat out. Wages in the US for servers are horrible, look it up often they exist on those tips and that extra little bit can mean having food for their child for dinner. Even if the next person in line can pay you can bet they will pay it forward to someone else someday.
Compassion is not yelling at that clerk when it is finally your turn in a very long line. Or even giving the person before you a dirty look for yelling about the wait. Taking a breath, changing your attitude and remembering that compassion and kindness are much more important than being home 10 minutes late.
Compassion is admitting you might not know the whole story of why someone is slow today. You never know who lost a friend to cancer, or that today is the day their father died. You don’t know that maybe someone was cruel to them of if the are abused or sick. So try remembering this and smiling and treating them with kindness instead of frustration. Compassion was when a friend and her husband took my son and I in when we had no where to go after I left an abusive relationship. It was them giving us a home until I could find a way for us to be safe. Their compassion still means the world to me.
Compassion is looking at the homeless person you see on your way to work each day and realizing they are a person, there is a story behind them being there. A reason they are not on their way to work or at home with their kids.
Compassion is realizing everyone is a story, we all have a past, a present and a future. Listen to their story and you will be a better person in the end.
What does compassion mean to you and how will you show compassion today?